The Toxic Friendship: 17 Signs Your Best Friend’s With A Narcissist/Energy Vampire

Have you ever felt like your best friend is taking advantage of you, manipulating you, or exploiting your kindness? Do you feel like you're walking on eggshells around them, never knowing what will trigger their underlying anger, avoidance, or self-convinced excuses. If so, you may be dealing with a narcissistic friend.

Narcissistic personality disorder is a complex issue, and it can be challenging to recognize the signs, especially when it comes to someone you care about deeply. However, it's essential to prioritize your own well-being and take steps to protect yourself from toxic relationships.

Here are 17 signs your best friend might be a narcissistic individual exploiting you:

1. They copy your style, interests, or habits without putting in the effort to truly understand or experience them.

2. They sabotage your relationships by sleeping with your exes, befriending your childhood friends while excluding you, or trying to one-up you behind your back.

3. They manipulate you through love-bombing, pretending to care, and then using that as a way to gain your trust and exploit you.

4. They belittle your struggles, lie about your experiences, and make you feel like you're the one who's flawed or problematic.

5. They consistently shift blame onto you, making you feel responsible for their mistakes or problems.

6. They present different personas or behaviors depending on who they're with, making it difficult for you to pin down their true nature.

7. They suck up all your energy, emotional support, and resources without giving anything genuine in return.

8. They dominate conversations and seek constant admiration, often fishing for compliments or becoming angry if they don't receive the attention they feel they deserve.

9. They lack empathy and struggle to recognize and validate your feelings, showing a general disinterest in your emotional well-being.

10. They try to convince you that you're the one who's flawed or toxic, while denying or downplaying their own problematic behavior.

11. They'll use silent treatment and avoidance, then excuses and lies to wheel you back in.

12. They'd rather sell you out and become a fake version of you than ever deal with their own unhealed relationships and childhoods you've worked hard through.

13. They'll piggyback off any success, secretly hoping you fail and be the one sabotaging you from the inside.

14. They might pretend to be your biggest supporter, but their actions reveal a hidden agenda of self-interest and exploitation.

15. They'll steal everything you've said, your words, quotes, sayings, and act as if they're their own.

16. They have a, “what yours is mine mentality.

17. When you assert yourself and confront their behavior, they will likely persuade themselves of their own misconceptions and portray you as the antagonist in their narrative. They will take your descriptions of their actions and twist the narrative, all while claiming your experience as their own.

The Deeper Truth

This behaviour is a projection of both individuals; unhealed roots, core relationships, aka family dynamics. Like attracts like, and it's life's way of letting us know we need to clear it out from the root to stop attracting it. An opportunity to see individuals for who they are, not who they’ve pretended to be. By acknowledging and working through our own ancestral and family patterns, we may be able to break the cycle of attracting similar relationships and create a more conscious, empowering dynamic in our lives.

A Deeper Reflection

If you're attracting a relationship with a narcissist, most likely one or both of your parents portray narcissistic traits. You're attracting this other half, whether it's a lover or not, showing you the parent-child relationship you had like a mirror. This same dynamic showcases our relationship between our mind and matter and/or light and dark energies.

By recognizing these patterns and working towards healing, we can break free from toxic cycles.

Breaking the Cycle

To break free from these toxic relationships, it's essential to:

- Explore your family history, herstory, theirstory: Reflect on your family dynamics, ancestral patterns, and any unresolved issues that may be contributing to your attraction to toxic relationships.

- Identify your patterns: Recognize the patterns and behaviours that you're repeating in your relationships, and how they may be linked to your family dynamics.

- Heal and release: Work on healing and releasing the emotional wounds and patterns that are driving your attraction to toxic relationships.

- Raise your vibration: Focus on the version of your CELLS you are getting to heal and release. Mirror Mirror! Careful, don’t break the mirror you must heal your projection/reflection.

By learning how to respond you’ll be taking responsibility for your own healing and growth, you’ll take your power back, you’ll be able to break free from the cycles of toxic relationships and create a more fulfilling, enjoyable, purposeful, slowed down, and overall loving life. You’ll release cell-centered, limited, and imbalanced views attracting the same in others. No judgement—we all as a collective have narcissistic traits and particles from our human race stored within our cells, it is our opportunity to see it, feel it, then heal it!

Learning how to live with and love yourCellves one vulnerable awakening to the truth at a time,