New Year, Not Really...Start Soft

New Year, Not Really... Start Soft.

As we celebrate January 1st, few realize our calendar's origins. Ancient Rome started the year on March 1st, later changed to January 1st in 153 BCE. Medieval Europe celebrated New Year's on April 1st, aligning with spring's renewal and the spring equinox. This sparks questions about questioning norms – what if our systems are outdated?

For me, this is part of a larger journey of healing and growth. It's been 7 years since becoming a parent, and I've been piecing together our family's traditions, healing patterns, and connecting with our roots. We're talking about realigning with nature's cycles, like celebrating the new year in sync with spring's awakening.

Here's a peek into my path, showing the evolution and patterns – the "path earned":

- 2018: First stand of doing things differently, creating our own traditions in Saskatchewan. Started peeling back layers of inherited patterns.

- 2019: NICU with Pax, no holidays celebrated, fighting for his and our own rights in LA (the Lost Angels). Learned intense lessons about resilience and boundaries.

- 2020: Celebrated family through extreme harsh conditions, COVID, pregnant with Blu, getting smear-campaigned by some we trusted most in Alberta (the sister/brother province). Tested trust and self-trust.

- 2021: Grandma Iona back in the picture, intergenerational living and healing, pulling in old traditions with healthier ingredients, storytelling, handmade gifts. Began healing ancestral cords.

- 2022: Paxie's last Christmas, another year without external family members, just Iona and us. Allowed in individuals we shouldn’t have – harsher lesson that was very informative in Alberta.

- 2023: Paxie's birthday (Dec 15th); first Christmas without him; reintegrating parts of myself; homemade decor; winter activities with kids. Continued unpacking grief and masculine/feminine balance.

- 2024: Launched 21-day winter solstice challenge for our cells and business; connecting to ancient celebrations with our present from Paxie, our 5th born Chy in Alberta (path earned).

- 2025: First year at the farm; second year of 21 days of wellness challenge; diving into the 12 days of Yule; feeling much more whole, guided by Paxie's light.

This journey's tied to healing my core, solar plexus, nerves, and the cords attached to people, places, things – the interconnectedness of our cells and family patterns. It's about looking at the map inside you, like geography and weather reflecting inner states (air/ideas, fire/thoughts, water/feeling, earth/action).

My son Paxie passed away, and he's guided me to lead meditations for grief and loss – we're still together, it just looks different. We're healing perspectives, opening the third eye, guided by his 6th birthday into the 6th chakra, and exploring X and Y chromosome patterns in our healing journey.

Now, 2026 is coming – a year of awakening in numerology (2026 = 1, root chakra). It's about aligning with what's inside. Women are fed up with immaturity; emotional health is taking the stage. We're saying goodbye to diets and trends, looking at actual frequencies and vibrations.

Each child has brought a new level of healing, helping us evolve and expand our cells. As we enter year 1, are you ready to move into your root chakra? Do you know your ancestry?

Let's heal the shallow waters and re-emerge back into Atlantis-like states – the feminine (mothering) uprising to heal the masculine (fathering).

Heavy on the loops, think Saturn's rings – Saturn, the old, outdated. Saturnalia, the party, festival, loose in laws, revelry, a revamp and new perspective on tradition, on what light/dark mean, a healing of the celebrations, from loose in law to willing to evolve to spiral out into new awareness, not spiral into cell centeredness.

The main themes for 2026:

1. Questioning norms and systems: Challenging traditional calendars, societal expectations, and outdated patterns.

2. Personal healing and growth: The author's journey of healing, self-discovery, and evolution as a parent and individual.

3. Ancestry and roots: Connecting with heritage, traditions, and ancestral patterns.

4. Cycles and rhythms: Aligning with nature's cycles (seasons, solstices) and inner rhythms.

5. Grief and connection: Processing loss and learning ways to stay connected.

6. Masculine and feminine balance: Healing dynamics between feminine and masculine energies.

7. Numerology and energy: Exploring numbers (2026, root chakra) and energetic connections in healing.

8. Self-awareness and evolution: Encouraging readers to explore their own patterns, ancestry, and healing journeys.

-S

Unwrapping Tradition: Separating The Sacred From The Scripted

Unraveling the Race: Embracing Our True Heritage

First off before we dive in, Happy Holidayin’ from our biracial intergenerational familia 🧬🎄🙏❄️🤍

Honouring you wherever your season is at! As everyone’s can and should look different and unique to their journey. Ours has been filled with lots of fridid cold weather, chaos, laughter, trying to catch up on holiday to-do’s, new perspectives but also an upheaval of past BS we unapologetically and maybe somewhat did not want to deal with…you know dancing out of the avoidance and seeing all our mirrors in the disco ball 🪩 of life. Projection, manifest-ion, reflection, tying together the external experiences with what’s stored within the cells emitting creating our reality 🎥👁️

We start life as a single cell—a sperm racing to an egg 🧬. But how often do we stay stuck in that "race" mindset 🏁? The push to survive, compete, prove … when true power lies in connection.

(If you’re thinking how is this a Christmas blog stay witch* me now…)

Like the black sheep 🐑 who turns away from the cliff , we can choose differently. Ever notice how sheep follow the herd off a cliff just because everyone else is doing it? 🤔 They're not mad about the cliff—they're mad the black sheep didn't follow their lead. It wasn't their idea first 💡.

The Lesson:

- Competition (🏁 "me first") keeps us stuck 🔒.

- Connection (we together) sets us free 🔓.

- True power? Choosing your path, not the crowd's!

The Roots of Christmas: Paganism Under New Management

Did you know the 12 Days of Yule (Dec 21-Jan 1) were sacred practices from ancient cultures? Long before commercialized Christmas , our ancestors celebrated the return of light, honoring the Mother and cycles of nature . Many Christmas traditions (trees, lights , feasts ) were inherited from ancient cultures and wise women who came before —then "rebranded" 💰.

Even the term "Xmas" represents the X chromosome 🧬, symbolizing the feminine —often edited out or altered. Like our ancestries, ideas, and identities, the origins of Christmas were stolen, shifted, or silenced 🔇.

As a mother, establishing what holidays and traditions we celebrated and how became center stage. As my son's first Christmas arrived in 2018, nothing felt right about celebrating it in the same, societally imaged way—with some forced, awkward family interactions, while others were a large remembrance and replay of the family dynamics from upbringings, always at play. Saving face, superficial conversations, not really knowing one another, or everyone having to fall back into their roles or characters: golden child, scapegoat, avoidant father, insecure mother, etc., surrounded around clashing mentalities, competition, and comparison, and a keeping up with outdated societal expectations and norms.

When we started to make the decision, as a family, to change how we celebrated—specifically Christmas—it created a massive explosion within our extended families on both sides. The more decisions we made to align with our core values and morals, the more we started to trigger those close to us. Becoming curious about what we were celebrating, why, how we were celebrating, and further looking into the origins of the rituals we had done out of norms for years, and honoring their true history, herstory, and theirstory—this action, in itself, being curious, wondering why, takes one out of the reptilian brain 1D and into the mamallian brain 2D from survival into connection. Rising from the earth/root and into the water/sacral creating waves in our nature, different codes, patterns; and those we are connected to will* feel this internal push and pull from the version starting to cycle break. This external will be met, and can manifest through those in our life, by similar interest, rejection, suppression, and a complete shift on the relationship completely—not to be taken as a bad thing or good; it just is, what it is. It’s the underlying energies being allowed to surface, the information to be aired out—it lets us know where all of our cells are truly at.

When one does things differently, it’s like the black sheep in a herd of white walking the other direction… the white sheep aren’t mad they walked off the cliff—they’re mad it wasn’t their idea to turn around. The underlying issue is that everyone wants it to be their idea, their identity, their ideal; every 1 (binary coding) wants to be the special 1. So many are stuck in the initial stages of creation.

And as a result of this, the survival brain stays in charge, and one-dimensional cell-centered living continues—cell versing cell—even its own cell. There's no balance, no dual nature, no evolving out of the "race" to the egg. That once you arrive, you realize only the one with the right X, Y, and body—aka ingredients—the 1 that's aligned will be the 1 to come through. Taking us deeper into our genetics and understanding energy, and like attracts like—law. Why do certain 1's trigger me? Why do I fall in love with? Why do I reject? Why do I resonate? The cell is exploring its relationship to other cells, and being curious about the underlying connections at play—and why. Key factor: their Y chromosome ⚡️ is attracted to the other's X chromosome 🧲—what similar charge 🔋 are those cells carrying, and what is the information, the cord, the energy behind it?

As we step into the threshold of 2025 (Year of the Snake, 9 in numerology) to 2026 (Year of the Horse, 1 in numerology) , the 12 Days of Yule invite us to reconnect . In ancient times, this liminal space—neither old year nor new—was for connecting to self, family, craft, feast, rest, gift-giving, ritual, conservation, decoration, and pleasure 🌿. A time to:

- Connect to your roots

- Honor your cycles

- Embrace the feminine

- Break free from "race" patterns

- Align with your true path

You’re the black sheep .What’s your path?

#BreakThePattern #FindYourPath #ReclaimTheOrigin #Intergenerationalhealingthroughliving