Spoonful of Stacey - Time With Your Partner ~Conscious Relationship~🔥💞🙏
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Just as you schedule appointments, write to-do lists, and handle the day to day needs of life it is just as important to schedule in time with your partner.
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We get busy with our children, pets, careers conditioned into hectic lifestyles, running the rat race --exhausting ourselves mentally, physically, and emotionally. At the end of the day instead of conversing & pleasuring your partner--we slump down in front of the tv, scroll on our phones, and escape.
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In this busy, chaotic world of daily activities, tasks and schedules, it is easy to forget that the person you chose to spend your life with is the person who can make your days brighter and the road ahead easier to travel. For most couples, the key to improving your relationship is to make it a priority to spend more time together.
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There is a saying: “It’s not the quantity of time that you spend with someone that matters, it’s the quality of the time.” While I agree with the general concept, I do have one question: How can you have any quality time with your partner if there is no quantity of time? Building “couple’s time” into your schedule can result in huge changes in how happy you are in your relationship.
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Grab your calendar and each week schedule in two hours, book a sitter for the kids, clear away any to-do's, put the cleaning on hold the floors aren't going to get up and walk away, release control and surrender make this time all about you & your partner--whether you rent a hotel room, head out into nature, go on a spontaneous adventure take the time to check in with one another---telling each other your emotions, what you would like to change, what you love about one another, what each other's fantasies are, if your sexual fulfilled, what you are grateful for, explore each other's mind, body, & soul.
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Xo
Spoonful of Stacey - Medical vs. Magical
Since I've found out about the pregnancy I've made it my intention and goal to experience every nook and cranny of this journey, to gather knowledge while exploring all different types of books, articles, authors, mama's, and to ultimately make decisions based off of what feels right for me. We are our smartest doctors, healers, midwives, and doulas and if we trust and listen to our bodies and intuition we will be guided throughout our pregnancy. That said, gathering information, speaking with experienced individuals, exploring curiously all avenues should not be ignored. I felt so uneducated on the journey of birthing throughout our time but was always aware there were plenty of different options especially in our day and age. They didn't have the means to technologies years ago as we do today. One can give birth out of the comfort of their home unassisted while another can have modern medicine delivering in a hospital.
Now at no point am I claiming I know what is best for a pregnancy, let's get real this my first time getting a double stripe on a pee stick! I only know what's best for myself and I truly believe everyone does. I've also been blessed with close connections and receive complete accurate information on my birth from Coco so anything I question I just channel my pregnancy guides straight through her and can quickly move through the BS. I think our society and fellow mom's should respect everyone's personal decisions and choices made during their pregnancy and of course share your knowledge but know that this is what worked best for you and others and shouldn't be pushed or judged if done differently. During my journey I will be blogging about my experience completely different as no pregnancy and birth are the same. I have felt guided to share this journey with you all but other than blogs I wasn't clear yet on how I would utilize the gifts I have and bring this to light.
Prior to my conception I had several clients book in with me who were young moms, and educated in birth(thanks universe). I was approached by one of them to run workshops assisting fellow mama's on all the ins and outs of pregnancy not taught by our formal educators. We will be joining together to mirror my pregnancy in which knowledge, understanding and awareness to this amazing miracle and transition from Maiden to Mother is shared from trained Doulas paired with my offerings as an Advanced Yoga Teacher, Life Coach, and Holistic Practitioner.
As I come into this new beginning it's now in my awareness how medical this miracle has become. My guides directed me to get the proper testing done just to make sure everything on the human level is balanced for the pregnancy. My journey with Doctors and Hospitals hasn't been the most pleasant and I've spoke about this prior and ruffled some feathers. Remember it's my experience and it's ignorant for you to judge, assume, or expect you could ever understand how my failing of health, multiple incorrect diagnosis's, and journey back to health truly transpired. I feel everyone has their place Doctor's, Natural-paths, Healers and we as individuals have to educate ourselves in all areas eastern and western to round out our knowledge and make decisions based off of what feels right for us.
My first Doctor's appointment did not feel right. It wasn't negative, it wasn't positive it just wasn't us. The experience was cold, disconnected, and very cut and dry. Pregnancy seems to me from what I've heard, seen, and experienced been completely stripped of it's true nature. When I think pregnancy I see the mama to be over the course of 9 months being given the opportunity to have time just for herself for self-care to its highest degree...we are growing a human if anytime we should
be SELFULL I'm gonna say this is the time! I see groups of women gathering around her to nourish and support this magical time. I see her understanding this isn't just a new baby coming into the world but a rebirth of herself and ascension into a completely different stage and role in her life. I see her embracing it all as she knows everything she is feeling and going through is what needs to happen for her and this new soul entering the world. I see two souls in one strong, divine, with a heightened sensitivity and this must be nourished and properly cared for.
So many are unaware that every thought, emotion, belief system, fear, and phobia experienced by the expecting parents is passed down to your growing baby right from the time of conception. We have women pushing to get their hours in for maternity leave, possibly working lack luster jobs, babies born into divorce, single mom to be's, etc. Imagine what thoughts and fears during this time could be transferred over into your nugget. Giving to self and taking time to be with this process will teach your baby how to respect the female energy, take care of themselves, allow themselves to receive, and honor their individual needs.
As we are all creating our lives, the conditions trusting the process, following your heart, and going with the flow one can create the birth journey they would like to have. This time should be respected and credited by our society I believe much more than it is. I believe women should be educated on how to listen to their bodies and intuition, on all the options they have, and given the space to make their own choices not clouded by medical fears or opinions of others.
Wishing you all love, light, and the wisdom from all your darkness,
Namastacey (~*~)
late summer, early fall, and everything in between.